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Choose simplicity to communicate better

As human beings, to communicate is an essential part of our life and we tend to assert that we have a complex form of communication that is far superior to other beings. However, when we communicate and process the information we receive, we often omit the emotional factor. It is not anyone’s fault that this is happening, but just lack of clarity. Many people hide certain things because they are too personal to communicate with others.

To simplify the communication process we must start from the idea that any communication reflects two strong emotions. Love and need for help. These two emotions cause us to communicate more than we think we are capable of, and even if we are not aware of the two emotions that determine our immediate need for communication, a dialogue is strongly influenced by one of the two emotions.

When a person contacts us and begins to communicate, we must identify the form of emotion that determines that dialogue. It is love? The pure pleasure of conversation or the need to know if you are okay. Is there a need for help? Material or intellectual or just overcoming boredom. These examples are simple and easily identifiable by nature. But these two emotions also exist in discussions that do not directly show what we feel and forget to treat the discussion in simple terms.

A good example is when the dialogue becomes full of reproaches that at first glance shock because it seems to be unrelated and yet that discussion happens. These reproaches can come from love because the person we are talking with is far too worried and is trying to sound an alarm signal. Or the person in need needs help and again tries to draw our attention to the issues.
It takes practice in communication to recognize which of the two emotions are present when the one we are communicating with is nervous or choosing hard words to express.

Many factors can determine a person’s behavior during the dialogue and the way we choose to communicate is essential whether we know that person well or not at all. In any case, if we always remember that there are only two emotions behind that dialogue, we can proceed with love if the person needs love or be helpful if that person needs it.

Sometimes you need both so you can offer them without identifying one emotion or another. Doing so will make communication much more efficient but you have to keep in mind that it is not always easy to approach.

Many times we have to deal with people with a strong ego or envious people or even people who consider themselves superior so they are unlikely to expect help or even love from us. Communication is difficult or complex only if we approach it in the wrong way or we have a mental state that does not benefit communication.

Another thing to keep in mind is that one of those emotions is related to us. A good example, in this case, is that of adolescents who face rejection from the social environment or the first problems in love. Communication with parents suffers and most parents consider themselves guilty or try a wrong approach to solving that only makes things worse. So even if the teenager needs help or love, parent involvement should be done carefully so as not to impair future communication. I can even add that it is an important point of establishing good family communication.

Communication in couples becomes difficult although the need for help is wanted from the outside for a problem from outside the relationship. The person closest to us will become a victim if you do not know how to identify in time and choose an appropriate communication. It always happens and it is often said that the key to happiness in a relationship is communication, but without going into too much detail to help.

Often people refuse communication when they are not understood or even worse when they are misunderstood. As it sounds, it’s about being understood and not being listened to or communicating just to tick the test. This need to be understood refers to the ability of the partner to truly feel when we need help or love. Often a non-verbal communication helps more than you imagine just understanding what our partner needs to ensure peace. I receive a hug full of love or anticipation of the problem you are facing at that time and take over the presumption or cancel the worry.

Nowadays, you can communicate in many ways regardless of distance and conditions and at the same time, you can improve your communication and even learn if you feel you can do better. Communication is important to maintain a relationship, to convey a message, to learn and teach from our knowledge. Once we realize that we can communicate better if we simplify the process, the power of understanding can turn our lives into good ones and bring us good things.

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